1/26/2009
when the word "difference" becomes "distance"
after the hyperactivity of the roller coaster of emotions that sent your systems into a record-breaking high, you reach a logical low, the downhill drop that gives you a more sane perspective. only then you realize the "differences" that seem so cute and easy before, now become potential deal breakers on relationship negotiations.
there was a game plan to troubleshoot future "spats", with that in thought, the word "compromise" was born and suddenly brought into the table. so now we have to draw the "let's meet half way" card during the times when nobody wants to bend anything. he even had that parallelism of standing on opposite ends of a ruler. sometimes one steps an inch towards the other, maybe half, or sometimes could go all the way. sounds simple... but stubbornness will make it triply hard for us to achieve such a contingency plan. i guess its worth a try though... goodluck na lang sa akin. the tricky part is WHEN and WHO draws the card.
i always fail in effective communication. i am not confrontational. i buckle during debates so i just keep silent and that bothers the heck out of him. him on the other hand, loves the defense. so what do we get from that? actually just tiresome and stressful exchange of thoughts, reasons and emo-drain. miraculously, things become better and we kindof (emphasis on the KIND OF) have an automatic internal reprogramming. although normally, i am pessimistic regarding the self-help and DIY "steps to a better and healthier relationship" , i got to hand it to myself because i am trying (YES I AM, very very hard) totally worth it actually. so far... i have not messed up badly. (although i am known to outdo myself)
i think we are a feat of nature. the ultimate fusion of diversity. one would think were a miracle (or probably a lethal combustion) waiting to happen. from dreams, to prejudices and beliefs, to plans (or lack of), to strategies... to character... to the "worlds" that have shaped our character. the deeper we become immersed with each other the more differences define us (hopefully not divide us).
posted by b3Rn1cE @ 9:39 AM |
